You know, the Hogwarts legacy situation has really taught me a lot about what allies really think about trans people. They don't care, they just do not care at all. They let their nostalgia blind them to the harm that is being committed by the author of their beloved series. Maybe this is just a cultural thing. Maybe people just really don't care. Maybe all of the supposed advocacy and support for trans people is just a way for people to feel better about themselves. It's just fucking hurts. It is also very difficult for me to reserve judgment. One of my goals in life is to avoid judging people as much as possible. It certainly ain't fucking easy. It is really easy to look at the situation and think things like "oh they care about the wizard game more than they care about me". And now, I am just left here trying to reconcile these feelings. How do you reconcile this? I guess that's a question for philosophers of our age. Just wish it didn't fucking hurt so much.

I think that if I see it brought up in meetings again, I'm going to interrupt the meeting, state my displeasure and how this conversation makes me uncomfortable because it implies that you are financially supporting people that do not want me to exist, then leave the meeting.

@cadey

the part I found frustrating is how willing they are to ignore all of the antisemitism in the game, beyond just JKR being a TERF.

like. why are you people so eager to be awful people???

Maybe this is what they meant by forgiveness being a subtle art that is so deceptively difficult.

@berry I understand your intent, but the way you are expressing it is really not helping. The most frustrating part about this is that I am not asking people to change their religion or anything drastic. I just don't want to hear about that fucking wizard game in work situations, or really anywhere that I don't really know that it's safe to just leave.

I don't really understand how all of this is controversial or confusing. The most frustrating part is that a lot of people I know that bought that game and supported that person who objectively wants to harm people like me are going to go and call themselves allies and go on like nothing happened. Then again, I guess this is just what happens when you're trans. Society just fucking shits on you when you have no control over it. Not to mention people think that you're the aggressor.

I am also neurodivergent, and I understand the compulsion to reply to post like the one that I made. For future reference, with post like these it is usually a bad idea to reply. You are not going to enlighten people to things that they already know. At the very least, you are going to frustrate the person on the other end. Very likely, you are going to infuriate them and any positive intent in your message is going to be lost.

Forgiveness is a virtue, but it is notably difficult to want to forgive those who materially support people that want to destroy people like me. It is difficult to remove that "enemy" tag off of people. How do you reconcile those two conflicting things? Which takes precedence? What happens when it's with people that you care about?

Flip the tables, what if this was someone materially supporting the idea that Christians should be given administrative hurdle after administrative hurdle for doing things as basic as wanting to exist and not feel like you were constantly lying to everyone?

Forgiving oppressors does not stop the oppression.

Look at this list of needless trans deaths: https://tdor.translivesmatter.info/reports

How can you look at the sales numbers of the fucking wizard game, this list, and how the views of the rights holder of the fucking wizard game enable that list getting longer for no real reason and not feel frustration at this damnable plane?

All of the bullshit around how trans people are treated by both of the media and the government in the US has made me just leave the US. I have given up on the American dream. I no longer have any faith that things will get materially better for people like me in my lifetime. Nobody fucking cares. Nobody fucking cares. That list will just get longer. Needless suffering will continue. What the fuck am I supposed to do?

Either way, do what you want. I can't stop you. I'm just words on the screen. Just don't support that person and then claim to be an ally. This is not a purity test. It is difficult to believe that someone can both support Christianity and want to destroy Christianity as a concept at the same time. Same with trans people.